Somante

About Somante

What is Somante Coaching?

Somante is a fusion of the words Soma + Amante. Soma is the Greek word for body. Amante is the Spanish word for lover. Modalities that are somatic, are of, or having to do with, the body or embodied experience. I think of Somante as the art of being an embodied lover.

Working with a coach is more intimate, hands-on, potentially erotic and mutually vulnerable than working with a talk therapist. You will get real, honest care, acceptance, and feedback from me as part of the process. In the coaching relationship we work within the boundaries of the Somatica method and our personal boundaries. There is no nudity, touching of genitals or exchange of body fluids. The motto of the Somatica Method^® is "transformation through pleasure."

Singles, partners, poly & ENM situations, all genders, BIPOC and LGBTQ+ are welcome.

Areas of Focus

Following are some of the topics our work together may focus on:

Embodiment & Freedom

Tuning into your body
Self-Acceptance
Body Wisdom
Accessing Erotic Energy
Pleasure & Self-Empowerment
Sexual Liberation
Sexual Orientation and LGBTQIA+
Beyond gender socialization

Healing & Transformation

Overcoming Shame
Performance Anxiety
Sexual Challenges (low desire, ED, orgasm control, etc)
Female Empowerment
Enlightened Masculinity
Presence & Feeling
Heartbreak support
Post SLAA - beyond bottom lines

Relationships & Dating

Vulnerability & Intimacy
Consent Practices
Boundaries
Receiving
Attachment
Relationship Repair
Dating
Opening an existing relationship
Relationship Design

Sexuality & Erotic Skills

Building Confidence
Flirtation
Dis - inhibition
Discovering what turns you on
Asking for what you want
Erotic techniques
Kinks & Fetishes

More About Sessions

Disclaimer: Sex & intimacy coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a licensed physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, social worker, or marriage and family therapist. Coaching is not the same as or a replacement for traditional therapy, psychotherapy or medical advice.

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Testimonials

Client Reflections

Waking up parts of me I didn't realize had gone to sleep

I'd been single for over a decade, and despite plenty of dating, I felt… nothing. No spark, no attraction, no real desire — like my sensual self had left the building. Enter Willia. With so much care (and just the right amount of playful mischief), she guided me back into connection with my body and my desire. It felt like waking up parts of me I didn't even realize had gone to sleep. Not long after our sessions, I started seeing someone I'd totally 'friend-zoned' before — and two years later, we're still together. I can honestly say I wouldn't have been open to this love without Willia's magic. I recommend her to anyone ready to feel more alive, more connected, and more deliciously themselves.

- Elena Z.

Unlocking sexual energy and deeper connections

I came to Willia for help overcoming insecurities about my sexuality and internalized homophobia. She and I worked through these blocks to get at the core of my issues, some stemming all the way to childhood. She taught me ways to connect with my emotions and listen to what they were trying to tell me so that I could heal and be more comfortable with myself. Through her techniques, I learned how to be present with myself and unlock a sexual energy within me that I didn't know how to value. Since then, I have been able to express my sexuality and connect with others in so much more intimate and meaningful ways than before, both in and out of the bedroom. Willia was incredibly comforting throughout the entire process and was quick to give me reassurance and validation when it was needed. Her guided meditations were masterful; they kept me focused and mindful. Her kind and caring attitude put me at ease, and it was easy to trust her. For anyone who wants to become better connected to themselves, their sexuality, and their partners, I highly recommend Willia's coaching.

- Ben

A deeply felt sense of closure & empowerment

Working with Willia was a nourishing experience. I came in with the goal of working through some childhood wounds related to gender identity and intimacy. While vulnerable, I felt safe and held throughout the work that we did. Willia's coaching opened me up to a new realm of healing—one that was rooted in my senses, my nervous system, and my heart. I left our sessions with a deeply felt sense of closure & empowerment. I now feel more connected with my body and more present in my intimate world. I enthusiastically recommend Willia to all my friends, especially those who are queer-identified or sex workers.

- Rylie

Work that continues to reverberate in my life

When we began meeting, I was seeking to detangle sex, intimacy, and drugs. They had become entwined, and I knew it was not a healthy entanglement. It felt confusing and stagnant. Before our first session, I debated simply cancelling, but immediately, I knew I was in a safe space with Willia. Online video conferences were nothing new during the pandemic. A sense of calm, however, was. Within that calm, I felt open to evaluating these topics from a new perspective. The inventory of my intimacy needs and wants continues to guide me. I hold a sense of gratitude for the time I spent in sessions with Willia, even years after. Willia's work continues to reverberate in my life, which feels less confusing and much less stagnant.

- Corey

Getting comfortable with intimacy and waking up a dormant libido

I scheduled a somatic healing session with Willia to work on getting comfortable with intimacy and waking up a dormant libido. The session gave me clarity, and helped me to realize I needed to first tend to my inner child. She led me through some very helpful exercises that I still think about. Willia was warm and kind and made me feel very comfortable talking about things I was conditioned to be ashamed of. I would absolutely recommend her as a coach.